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Several years ago, as a pediatric resident, I worked with a distinguished professor from whom I anticipated learning a great deal. I recall one busy day at the clinic, in the course of which my professor pointed out several “clinical pearls” arising from each case. During one of our conversations he thought I was being disrespectful to him. He informed me that I should remember I was not talking to the man on the street. My first thought was that he must be joking, but the flash of anger in his eyes told me otherwise. I was devastated; I apologized for any misunderstanding and assured him I had meant no disrespect. But a few moments later I began to feel angry. What made him think he was better than the man on the street? The man on the street would have treated me with more respect.
The rest of the day passed with minimal interaction between us, and the incident was not mentioned again.
Doctors are professionals; presumably, this is what separates us from many men or women in the street. A professional is someone with a defined set of knowledge and skills — a good communicator who exhibits honour and integrity, altruism, leadership, compassion, responsibility, accountability ... These were qualities I wanted to have. Certainly, I aspired to be a professional.
However, provoked by that exchange with the professor, I also started to pay more attention to the men and women I met in the street. A man gave me directions when I could not find my way. Another helped me to pick up my books when I dropped them. A woman stopped her car to let me cross more quickly on a rainy day. There were several such incidents. I wanted to be the woman in the street who was not too busy to give directions or to stop her car to let someone cross. Indeed, as a person in the street, I did extend such courtesies. But I began to wonder what sort of human being I was in the hospital.
A few months ago I was doing quick rounds on all the patients in the emergency department at the beginning of an evening shift. I went to assess a 14-year-old; he was in the resuscitation room, in a confused mental state. After ensuring that all the medical care was appropriate, I talked to the mother and asked if I could do anything for her. She said she needed to go to the washroom. As I turned to show her the way, she said, “Doctor, I don't want to leave him alone. He gets agitated if I don't hold his hands. Could you please sit with him and hold his hands until I get back?”
She was asking me, the attending staff physician at a busy tertiary care pediatric emergency department, to sit with her son for two minutes — just as she would ask any woman in the street. I sat down and took hold of her son's hands, feeling honoured.